Are You Trying to Fix Everything as Your Loved One’s Caregiver?
When your loved one suddenly gets sick or is dealing with a chronic illness, you might find yourself wanting to fix everything that is wrong in her life. Unfortunately, that doesn’t make the problem go away and you’ll only drive yourself crazy.
Start Noticing Your Reactions
Being a “fix it” person can be so engrained in your behavior that you may not even notice what you’re doing. Start slowing down and noticing your reactions when you encounter different situations. If your first response is that you have to figure out a solution, then you’re deep in fix it mode and need to learn how to snap out of it.
Let Go of the Need to Fix Situations
Part of setting yourself free from trying to fix everything involves simply deciding to let go of that responsibility. You can’t fix everything for your loved one anyway, no matter how much you would like to do just that. Understanding that you have to choose another path can help you learn to let go of this need.
Redefine Your Role as a Caregiver
If you’ve spent a lot of time invested in the belief that fixing things for your loved one is what being a caregiver is all about, you’ll need to reframe what being a caregiver means. You’re there to be her advocate when she can’t be. You’re also there to help her to be comfortable and to keep her as safe as possible. That means that you’re not going to have time or energy to try to fix everything that could go wrong, especially if one of those wrong things is her overall health.
Just Do What You Can Do
After you realize that you can’t be the person who fixes everything, you have to accept that what you can do is enough. You’re providing all that you can for your loved one with the resources that you have and that’s what you can do. Most of the time, that’s definitely more than enough.
Once you can accept that you’re not there to solve all of your loved one’s problems, even the unsolvable ones, you’ll be better able to do the job of a caregiver.
If you or an aging senior in your life are considering hiring a professional caregiver in Huntington Beach, CA, please contact the caring staff at In Home Care Solutions today. Call (949) 239-0488 to speak with our caring staff.
Dr. Kay got her medical education in Brazil.
Dr. Kay also has a master degree in Film and Television from UCLA and has been an adviser for medical television shows.
Dr. Kay is very active in the Health Industry. She is a member of the American Board of Home Care, the National Association of Home Care, CAHSAH, California Association of Health Services at Home. She co-chairs the education committee for the Down with Falls Coalition. Dr. Kay is in the speaker’s bureau for the coalition helping educate health care professionals and the community on fall risks, diabetes, adverse drug reaction, dementia, Parkinson’s disease, dehydration and nutrition, etc…. for older adults.
Dr. Kay was nominated by the National Association of Women Business Owners (NAWBO) as the Remarkable Woman of 2008.
Dr. Kay is actively involved in many philanthropy and non-profit organizationssuch as the American Cancer Society, Susan G. Komen, the Philharmonic Society, Women Helping Women, Youth Employment Services, E-Women, Women Sage, Plasticos Foundation, CIELO and others.
Dr. Kay’s passion is to assist seniors to live long and thrive in the comfort of their own home.
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